There is a very thin line between Nlp and psychic ability the difference is with Nlp you can do it much more precisely
When you combine what you want with where you put good decisions, (submodalities) it's far more likely to draw to you what you want and far more likely to present to you how to do it
Many of you have been stuck because when it comes to ideas, you only talk to yourself, so you're cutting off a huge part of your mind, the part of your mind that makes pictures
Now when you want a good intuition you can see pictures see what to do
When I am doing nlp sessions with a client, I hear their thoughts before they do, I see their pictures before they do, am I bullshitting or is this for real?
And of course there is a place in your mind where you're super suggestible, if you just stop,
And begin the process of finding place. that space where you are totally suggestible
And if you should do that you were to hear my voice ....and see my face right in that place
In that super suggestible part of your mind, your like .Wow what a mental and spiritual bond between me and you...unbreakable isn't it?
This pattern cracks anyone's resistance
It doesn't require any use of tonal 848h710i ity, but doesn't mean you can't
Maps of the world
There's an idea in Nlp that people don't respond to the world, they respond to their own internal map on inside their head
And so if you understand what people's maps are you then have tremendous leverage
Maps of the world are composed of their beliefs about the following
# 1 who they are their identity
# 2 what they can do their capability
#3 what is possible for them in the world, their possibility
#4 what they deserve, they're deservingness
If you understand people on this level, you get tremendous amounts of information, this is the deepest level of who they are as people.
If you get this information
#1 people aren't used to someone communicating with them on this level, most people don't even know themselves at this level, if you know them at this level, there's nothing you can't do
a map is defined by what's not on it, by the boundaries of the map
what are the borders?
in someone's life mentally, emotionally, spiritually, in the real world and both inside and outside, the map is defined by
where they have a.challenge.
And it's only when someone experiences a challenge, that they expand in on of these ways
Listen carefully for identity language
(I am an actor, I am an interior designer)
look for words they lean on and use those words to communicate to her
look for what's possible find out where her boundaries are?
Who is she as a person?
What's possible for her?
What does this say about what she would like in a relationship?
What's her belief about this?
What are her beliefs about her capability?
What words does she lean on?
Women tend to be attracted to the guy they fall in love with
Men tend to fall in love with the woman they are attracted to
#2 Ask about the one thing they do that challenges them the most
#3Ask for clarification if you need it, What do you mean by that? Make sure you understand what they're saying
#4 listen for their personal trance words, these are the words they lean on, they'll give them extra emphasis, change in posture, leaning forward.
#5Listen for clues about are their world model I am, I can, can't
#6 Ask them what's your belief about this, Do you believe this will always be a challenge, or will it one day be easy?
Why do we ask this, cause it really forces them to go deep inside and really reveal what they believe about themselves and the world.
These are useful questions to ask a potential employee!
#7 use their personal trance words and their world map as leverage to get what you want
#8 you can transition to another pattern
move from pattern to pattern then talk about relationships it's only natural
what's important to you in a relationship?
It's a natural transition to talk about her ideal relationship
Testing their model of the world
By asking someone what their challenge is
They either have to stop and think this challenges me because I am not able to do it, because I'm not the kind of person who would do it, because I don't deserve to have it, I just believe the world doesn't allow anyone to have it.
Asking that presupposes that they have to access on one or more of those levels
In order to answer the question what's your real challenge they have to say, something is a challenge for on of the following reasons " I am not the kind of person who does this" what would be your challenge with shoplifting?
"it's illegal"
yeah but what's the challenge with doing something illegal?
"I don't want to get caught"
Why don't you want to get caught?
"I'll go to jail"
What's wrong with going to jail?
"I'll lose my freedom"
"now we are starting to hear a value, Freedom, get it"
he's told me he's a person who really values freedom
Look at process not content
If you want to be a master at human behavior
What is the common thread in what people are asking?
Learn information about people you can do anything you want when you fit it in their model
The fact of the matter is, people are always going to this stuff, nlp, submodalities, you can't not do it, that being the case do it with deliberateness in a way where you get what you want, and hopefully the other person is happy to.
Weasel phases allow you to embed command,,, they setup the embedded command
They let you step back from something that may offend somebody
They let you get in to topics that might otherwise be oversensitive
Instead of saying what's important to you in a relationship,
I'll go, so if I were to say to you what's important to you in a relationship, what might your answer be?
It's all hypothetic theoretical, it's not like we are really talking about it, as you spill your guts so I can do everything I need to make you feel madly in love with me
"If I were to Say to you"
"how surprised would you be to"
How surprised would you be to find yourself falling madly in love with me
This presupposes what ever add on the end
What's the presupposition, it's not that you are or you aren't falling in love, are you gonna be surprised by the fact
"Have you ever"
why is it so powerful cause it sounds like a question but it's not a question at all
it's a command to remember whatever the experience the person is describing
it's too bad you can't ...find yourself thinking certain thoughts
Notice what it's like..... use this one to move pictures around
Notice what it's like as a picture of me sneaks itself powers itself right into that location see what I'm saying
Notice what it's like..that presupposes that it's going to happen
weasel
Notice what it's like.. as the warmth of that voice to move into a certain direction..
As it continues to move down it intensifies in that warmth
Now if you were to. allow a color that describes that feeling to pop into your mind
What color would that be
And as the color gets brighter and brighter and begins to swirl around and up and down and through you
I don't want to suggest that you might begin to have certain...images
Notice what it's like as an image of x
Pattern for sexual exhilaration
The ratchet pattern
Basically works by saying
(State agreement about what can't be done)
It's to bad you can't (and then you name what you want them to experience) but if you could..you might find yourself...
and as that's happening
You just keep jacking them up and up and up with every cycle of it's too bad you can't you keep giving a greater and greater description till the time you finish they're fainting
Hypnosis doesn't work on me
It's too bad you can't just find yourself entering a state of total suggestibility
I am not attracted to you?
Your right (state agreement)
It's too bad you can't (find yourself becoming more attracted)
I just really take my time, it takes months of me to get interested in someone
It's too bad you can't (fall in love immediately but if you could, and also (give more commands) feel that growing openness in your heart. but if you could
And as that's happening you could also ..(give more commands)
This breaks though any resistance or all resistance
It's too bad you can't feel totally possessed by this knowledge to really learn more about nlp, but if you could wouldn't that be great to really see yourself as a master of this powerful information and also be able to penetrate any one's mind and heart with this powerful communication.
It's too bad you can't
But if you could...
Notice what it's like...
What's the basic principle
Think big frame
The basic principle use what ever your offered
Someone offers you something don't resist
Take it move with it use the force of that against your opponent
Never ask why ?
Why don't you want to ?
It forces her deeper into the objection
As they come up with reasons of why they don't want to do it.
If you ask yourself reasons why you do something you just come up with reasons to keep doing it and stay stuck
That is the structure of a slump
You see pictures of yourself screwing up
And then what happens is you make the mistake over again
Never ask why unless you are presupposing something
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